I can't even explain how happy I am, to be able to do what I'm doing right now. I have always wanted to write about the personal growths, I experienced after my breakup. The truth is I was scared, I thought I wouldn't be able to move on, but I was even more scared of writing about those growths I experienced when I finally moved on. I thought it was something people wouldn't relate to, due to the way I reacted to some stuff. Then, I found someone who could relate, someone who had that energy I had when I went through those sad times, and it occurred to me that there would be several others, who can relate to that energy and most importantly be inspired by it. 

My friend is someone who has gone through so much as regards financial challenges and just like anyone, he has been trying to do so much for himself and family. Yes! I find that really inspiring and challenging as well. Well, He got into a relationship with a girl he admired so much, although he knew he had nothing to offer financially. I guess he just loved her,  but sadly you need money these days to keep up with a relationship. Remarkably, they had been together for almost 6 months and it was a roller coaster for them. Sadly, she started complaining about how he doesn't pay her bills and how frustrating the whole relationship thing had been. He shared these experiences with me and I made him understand that no matter how bad things would turn out, he shouldn't blame his girlfriend. The fact is a lot of girls can't keep up with a guy that has little or nothing to offer, it's a total turnoff. But things turned really bad when she went as far as spelling it out to him, that he had nothing to offer and she even went on to lament on how useless the relationship was for her. When I heard this, I felt leaving was the best option for him and I knew as hard as that was, it was the best advice for him. Personally, I can relate to those pains that comes with breaking up with someone that you clearly care about on your own. But most times it is the best decision to take. Don't even feel bad!

“Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.” ~ M. Kathleen Casey


We all have had partners that made us think less of ourselves, partners who have made us think we are doing too less, partners who have made us doubt ourselves and have even shook our self esteems. Now this is where it gets even harder!  It's really hard to be better when we don't believe in ourselves. Some of us just result to hating ourselves and believing every opinion people have about us. Yea! I was there too. But I chose to channel those angers and bad energies. I was so angry at myself and I hated how I was treated, I felt rejected and that made me lose so much confidence in myself. Well, I wasn't so confident in myself or abilities before the whole incident and I don't even think I loved myself enough back then. So it wasn't really hard for people to make me feel less of myself. But unlike anyone, I chose to be better, I chose to prove to those who have ever doubted me that I was far more than their opinions about me. And that energy right there is my drive right now! Everything and every decisions I have made from those times till now has been a result of that drive. That has been the best step I have ever taken in my entire life!


“Life always waits for some crisis to occur before revealing itself at its most brilliant.” ~ Paulo Coelho

I'm proud to say I have been more confident in myself. I have become a little greedy with my feelings and my self esteem is top notch. I can tell you this girl right here has gotten this far with mental growth, because of that one push. And all these happened after a breakup. No matter how complicated the breakup was, channeling your energy the right way is the best thing you can do for yourself and those you love!

“I’m thankful for my struggle because without it I wouldn’t have stumbled across my strength.” ~ Alex Elle

Just like I told my friend, this is the best time to work on yourself and prove to the world that you are special with special abilities.