Quite a number of us have been through heartbreaks and we breakup-ees can understand how painful it is( yeah! we are proud toošŸ˜‚). But that's not what today's content is all about. As painful as heartbreaks could be, romanticizing it without letting go and moving on is more painful than the heartbreak itself. Well, today's content is all about my aunt who nursed her heartbreak for so long and she couldn't let go. She made a mistake and missed the very important zone of her life. 


“Learn from the mistakes of others. You can't live long enough to make them all yourself.” - Eleanor Roosevelt.


My aunt would be forty years old next year and she has not gotten married. Yes, I meant what I said! I thought of her lately and inquired from my mum as to why my aunt hasn't gotten married. According to my mum, she said my aunt had a guy she liked way back secondary school and that they dated throughout the university. She said my aunt really loved this guy and that after university, the guy traveled outside the country and promised to come back for her. According to my mum, she said even after 8 years my aunt was still optimistic about the whole situation and even turned down a lot of suitors as a result of her hoping that one day her prince charming will come. Well, she only got to know about some months back that the supposed guy is married with children.


“We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope.” – Martin Luther King, Jr.

I wondered to what extent do we take our love to? To what extent do we allow our hearts to rule us. It is said that when you're in love your head stops working and your heart rules but I personally believe that there is an extent you will get to that your head just has to think! I wonder how great those emotions were that she could wait for over 10 years. Damn! 10 years.


Even after she got to know, she gave up on love and turned down someone else who was ready, she was nursing the heartbreak. I totally understand that after going through all of that, it must have been really hard on her but hey! Don't ever lose hope on yourself, you are all you've got. Learn to love and cherish yourself even in disappointments. You've gat this!šŸ¤—


I can't judge anyone and I can't say exactly say what anyone should have done if they were in those shoes, because you never know what to expect until you're on those crossroads, but I decided to tell her story to remind us that sometimes if not most times “OUR HEADS SHOULD DO THE THINKING NO MATTER HOW DIFFICULT " (aargh I know that's difficult, but it's the best)


There is a saying that you can't advise a person in love and yes it's true and that was one of the things that affected my aunt. A lot of people told her to be mindful of her age and move on but she was insistent. Well, I still have enough hope for her that she would meet the one. But it's a lesson to everyone out there that sometimes you let go, no matter how difficult so that we don't get hurt. I've got a special love for those who are in a long-distance relationship. I admire your courage honestly!. Although no one can exactly understand your sacrifices and hope in your relationship, you should sometimes take a moment and be sure you're doing the right thing. So much love from ninišŸ˜. BE YOU AND BE ACCOUNTABLE!