Hmmm... This one is definitely going to hit differently! So guys, I have this really close and beautiful friend. Yes! She is pretty. If there is anything I admire more in our relationship, it has to be how open minded and honest she is. She is someone who behaves differently on the inside and I love her even more for that. So yea! We had this really deep conversation like days ago and she said a lot of things that got me thinking. Now Elizabeth is in a relationship that started like two weeks ago and she has known this guy for a very long time before he traveled out. And even when he traveled, their friendship didn't change or stop. According to her, he was her type and so when he asked her out, she said yes! About a week ago she had an opportunity to meet with a Friend she has known all the way from school. Before they met, their conversations had been really short and casual, in fact you could say there was little or no communication between them. When they met she felt something different around him and she loved that feeling. 

“It‘s not about how you look on the outside, it‘s about how you feel on the inside."— Unknown.

Suddenly, Elizabeth became confused and didn't know what was right for her anymore. He suddenly felt like “the one" to her, she started getting so used to him due to the attention she was receiving from him.  When she was explaining everything, I was perplexed as well and I asked her a simple question. What do you like about your boyfriend? Her answer made me freeze. She said “Nickki to be honest with you, all I love is his looks and body, this new guy on the other hand has no good looks but he is damn caring and sweet. Oh wow! Wait! Who are you to judge her? No one has it all figured out. Remember that!

“Go ahead and judge me but just remember to be perfect for the rest of your life."— Unknown.

She went ahead saying how her boyfriend is good but doesn't give her as much attention compared to the new guy. In a way she was comparing them both. I told her that I needed to ask her some questions in other to help her in my own way. I asked her, to list the qualities she admired in them separately. After she listed them, I realized there were little or nothing much she could  list in her boyfriend. And I said to her: if you weren't so sure about him, why did you say yes? Well She said she was single at the time and that she liked him as well. 

“Remember, it takes time to build valuable relationships – success is never accidental".

Now I'm asking you, why did you say yes? If you knew you weren't sure. Why did you have to rush into it without thinking much about it. What was your plan? That you would love him as time went on or what? Did you for once think about what would happen if you realized later that it was mistake? His feelings, his time? Oh wait! You felt, you could just compromise and go with it regardless? Over time I have learnt that in whatever you do, do not compromise! Please know what you want, stick to what you want and be patient to find someone that possesses what you want. You should be sure! You don't just rush into something so serious if aren't sure! I'm sure no one wants to get confused at any point when they think, they have it all figured out. The truth is when you see a guy who seems like your “type" take your time and observe! I don't think I'm the only one who wants to be in a relationship where I'm gradually growing into perfection. I'm definitely not the only one who wants a partner that has the plan of walking with me to perfection. Don't you guys see that there is more to being in a relationship than the constant morning texts and smooching? Isn't there a plan to grow? Don't you think of having a long-lasting relationship? Please what's the joy of coming out of a relationship the same way you entered. Damn! God forbid! Please take all the time you want, plan and take action! It might not end well but you will definitely not come out from such relationship empty and void. It's impossible. Love isn't predictable and that doesn't mean you should just jump into a relationship. Love isn't enough! By now you should know that. 


You have all the time now to think of why you said yes to that relationship! and be tough enough to walk out if you're not gaining anything. Relationship is not a by force thing, IT'S A MATTER OF CHOICE PLEASE!.