Something bothers you? Talk! You are angry because of something he did? Tell it to his face! She acts really annoying sometimes and it hurts you? Get into a conversation. Sincerely, I feel if we take a step to explain how we feel about certain things, our misunderstandings won't be so complicated.
Today I want to share a story of how I screwed up because I didn't have the courage to speak up when needed and when I finally did, I was at peace.

“Only by speaking out can we create lasting change. And that change begins with coming out."

I have this really close friend and when I say close, we are damn close. I like him a lot and he is someone I'm damn scared of losing, to be honest I don't joke with my friends. So yea! We do a lot of calling and texting, and I'm actually fond of him. I think that's something that happens, whenever we spend time doing stuffs like calling and chatting with a particular person. Most times we even confuse it with feelings. Well after a while, I started feeling really distant from him. I would send texts and it would take like a day or two to get a reply. I felt I was being ignored, I felt he was tired of being my close friend. I was sad and worried. I'm an overthinker and trust me it's a terrible thing sometimes😂.  I was feeling really bad, like really bad that I even cried at a point. Damn! Silly me. I didn't know what the right thing to do was. Oh yea! This is that point where you would feel it's better to stop texting, so you wouldn't seem desperate. I thought so too, so I stopped texting. I kept telling myself that if he won't text, then I wouldn't. I felt that was me acting less desperate or bothered. Yea! That was it, but guess what? I still wasn't less worried and I was clearly not getting better.

“Speak up, because the day you don't speak up for the things that matter to you is the day your freedom truly ends."

I got tired of acting like everything was okay because it wasn't. So I plucked up the courage and went to his DM, I wrote how I felt. I clamoured on how annoying the whole thing was. Hey! No one snubs a message that's lengthy and filled with honest lines, trust me. So yea! We talked about everything. As the conversation went on, I realized how judgemental and self-centered I had been. And I thought to myself, if only I had spoken up earlier I would have saved myself from all the hurts and pains I went through. At the very least, things wouldn't have been so complicated. Honestly, I was really happy that we could sort things out with holding anything back. And I plan to keep doing that with all my friends and those that I love dearly, and clearly those I don't want to lose.

“Silence gives consent"

Sometimes all you need to do is speak up. If you're in a relationship where you're constantly scared to voice your opinions on how certain things make you feel, then I don't even know what you're doing there in the first place. Communication is very important, regardless of whatever relationship you're in. How amazing would it be to know that you have a partner that you can talk to about things that's worrisome to you? It's truly bliss. Yes! Take that step today! There are some friendship we never want to lose, if communicating could save it then why not! For a moment forget about what people would think, forget about how desperate you will sound. You like this person so much and that's enough!