Over the week, I had a chat with a very close friend and he was so pissed about his girlfriend's behavior towards certain things. He was so angry that he lamented so much about her, and he almost made me think that he never liked her. But, I couldn't blame him. Sometimes we push the people that care so much about us so hard, and they slowly start losing interest in whatever they had for us.

Most of the times, we blame our partners for being the reason for a break up. We don't take our time to reflect on our own wrongs, we just assume that he/she got tired of the relationship and then decided to break our hearts. Some times, we've 
pushed our partners over their limits and we have even failed to admit it. Some of us hide under the statement “it's not bad to be petty at times" or “it's not wrong to be pushy sometimes ". But do you know it's terrible to be petty at all times? Don't you think it's tiring for someone to constantly deal with your pettiness? 

“Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new"

I wish we take our time to look into the things we have done in the past. Have you ever thought of how you treated him in the past? Have you ever thought of the words you altered at him in the past? Have you ever considered how he must have felt when you did some certain things? Truth be told, girls admire attention and when a girl realizes she lacks that from you, she can conclude as soon as possible that you don't entirely care for her and she can decide to let go. But then, you immediately assume that she probably never liked you, for her to have called it off so easily. You fail to admit how slowly you've pushed her to her limits. You fail to realize how badly she must have felt when she needed your attention and you were as usual missing!

“Mistakes make you wiser, and failures make you stronger.”

I'm not saying that every relationship we have been through that ended in tears was due to our own shortcomings regardless of what our partners may have done wrong. But let's be honest, a relationship do not go wrong in a day. I feel that a relationship could start having a crack from the very first day it started. We just didn't take our time to fix the problem quickly before it got out of hands, probably because we were too overwhelmed or because we thought staying silent was a good idea.




Someone needs to hear this “staying silent about how certain things make you feel, doesn't solve issues!" It's not healthy and it's unnecessary. You might say there are some things better left unsaid. But I don't think that applies to how you feel or how someone you care about treats you. If you're in a relationship where partner doesn't seem to care about how you feel about some things or you're in a relationship where you're too scared to voice your opinions on certain issues then I see no reason why you're there in the first place. After all, one of the keys to a healthy relationship is honesty!  

Well, we can't go back to repair relationships we have failed but we can learn from them. I believe if we can all decide to work on our behaviours and also learn from our past mistakes, staying in a relationship wouldn't be a bad idea. At the very least, relationships won't have to always end in tears!