We have all been through tough times,one way or the other, and we have lived through those challenges. We were able to push through and scale through our problems. But when it come to a heart break we are clueless on what next step to take. 

“It may hurt to let go but sometimes it hurts more to hold on." — Unknown.

I'm not sure if it's just me, but the aftermath of a heart break can be draining. Some of us hit that spot where we start telling ourselves that we truly never deserved better. Some of us even get to a point where we become too scared to move on. We just assume that love isn't for us or that we could never move past these pains. Some of us even fall into depression. While, some of my bros will even just conclude that “after all love na scam😂". Also a few number of us, withdraw from our social lives.

 “Hearts will never be practical until they are made unbreakable.”

Hey! How about we channel our pains to something productive! If I believe that life has so much packages for you, then why should you even think of giving up. Get up on your feet and see so much amazing things you can do, if you give yourself a chance. There was a time, I found myself in a place where I thought I was talentless, I looked down on myself so much that when people don't even assume anything negative about me, I have accepted all the negative comments on my own. I have been to a lot of seminars, where I'm constantly reminded that every being has something unique in them and that you just have to take your time to discover all your hidden treasures. Now my point is this “ I heard everything that was said about being unique and talented but I didn't believe in those words". I felt they  were just one of those things I lacked. I thought I was just a normal girl with no talent. Nothing! I paid no attention to my abilities because I already assumed all the negative things there is, to assume. I couldn't even believe that people loved me because I didn't even love myself.

“Never let a bad person change your inner goodness.” – Karen Salmansohn

Heartbreak changes people.‘ — Unknown.

Dear reader, you could be that same person I once were, but the good news is that everything about you changes with the right mindset. You can be that person you've imagined to be with the right mindset. To be honest, my mindset changed after a break up. I went through the whole crying and weeping protocol though. I wasn't exactly free from my pains and burdens. But, I woke up from my sadness one day and decided to be the very best at being me. I decided that even if my heart was broken wasn't the end for me. I chose to prove myself, after all what's there to lose? I chose to channel my pains to the very right path. I chose to grow! I decided to stop doubting myself. I was so pained and angry. “This can't be me", “there should be more to you that you can imagine", “ friends are doing great, so you can do great things too!". Those were encouraging words I started reciting to myself every time.

 “In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: it goes on.”- Robert Frost


There are times when people say “ I love you" and you just say within yourself that they don't mean it. Sometimes you even argue within yourself that why would it be you? Hey! Why can't it be you? You're amazing and it is disheartening that you're the only one not seeing how unique, beautiful and talented you are.

“You've got at least a thousand capacity in you even if you don't think so".


Well, in that moment of choosing to love and cherish myself, my mindset about me slowly changed. And in those moments of changing, I realized I was better. I realized I wasn't that same girl who had looked down on herself, I had suddenly gained so much confidence and in no time I started doing things I never imagined I could do. You can also choose for yourself now. It depends on you!