I know a lot of people would be so keen on knowing what mistakes I have made, and some would probably judge me. But the truth is, I feel putting this out here would be an eye opener to people who haven't made such mistakes and will fortunately avoid them!. I know the joy that comes with finding out that some people have been through what you might be going through and can totally relate with your situation. It's a total relief! I must say.

Well here are 3 things I wish I did differently:

•I wish I had listened to that advice “ it doesn't last!".

Have you ever felt, that if you waited just a little longer, things would have turned out a little different?.. I was once advised that going into a relationship doesn't last, that it takes a whole lot to be in one. I was made to understand that as visceral as your love is for each other, it wasn't enough to keep a relationship alive and that I would know when it was actually time to go into a relationship. But obviously that didn't make any sense at that moment. To be honest, I enjoyed every bit of it, for what its worth, it was totally amazing but then it ended. As quickly as it started, it ended. And then I felt that if I had taken that advice, no one would have gotten hurt and life would have been less complicated.. It didn't exactly complicate my life, but it had a lot of disadvantages, moreover it heightened my insecurities, and made me emotionally vulnerable

. Well, what more can we do to our mistakes, than to move on with our newfound wisdom.

Furthermore, the aspect of “you will know when you're ready to be in relationship " is just untrue. You can never be too prepared or under prepared for a relationship. All that truly matters is that being in a relationship is what you desire and you go for it!. But remember, it takes a whole lot to be in relationship. You should be ready for the hard times and learn to handle those times with love,care and patience.

•I wish I had spent more time with my girls

Funnily enough, as important as having so many friends is, having the right set of girlfriends is very necessary. Because the fact remains that, when all other friends are absent or probably busy.. Your girlfriends are all you got. I personally wish I had bonded a lot with them, or even had a lot of precious and funny moments with them.

“ Rare as true love is, true friendship is rarer"

I have heard a lot of girls say “ girls can't be good friends" and its even more shocking when I hear some girls say all we do is compete with one another. When some girls go into a relationship, they automatically spend all their time with their man, they have no clue that telling their man every single thing they are going through can put a lot of pressure on him and also forgetting that if perhaps it all ends, their girls are all they have left.. I have been a victim of this. As much as I had explained how I felt after a break up to my guys, my girlfriends were the only ones that could get me. Somehow they could relate to how I was feeling.

“ Girlfriends understands you in a way your man doesn't ".

It was at that moment I realized I had given so much to that relationship, forgetting that my girls were as important as well. I realized I had missed times where I could be down with my girls, laughing and crying, you know. Oh! Well, it's a relief I still have time to catch up tho, but having them closer, sooner would have helped a lot. Now I can only imagine going on girls night with my favorites and just sharing our struggles with one another. I'm so not letting then down again!

•I wish I had appreciated my family more.

My family are my favorites in the world and I wish in one way or the other, I gave them so much appreciation. I didn't really give so much importance to appreciating them, and I didn't realize that the little things they were doing for me were so important. Unfortunately, I didn't realize these things until I left home for the university.. Then I had to do every single thing on my own. The pressure was driving me crazy, I missed times when it was my mum that was doing the cooking and even the thinking, or times where I didn't have to plan to survive through a day!. There were even nights I cried in my room not because I missed home that much but because I was tired of doing everything for myself. To be honest it's a whole lot of pressure to handle and thanks to family I didn't feel that way, not even once in years past.

“ A happy family is but an earlier heaven "

The most important thing you need to know as an individual is that the only thing you need to hold onto is your own happiness. Nothing should come before it!.. There are some relationships with people that are toxic, as important as they may seem,if they are toxic, do away with them!.. I have had to make very hard choices to prevent myself from losing my happiness and as sad as I was for making those choices, I'm convinced that no matter what, nothing comes before you!.. It should be you first!.

“Every single person is responsible for their own happiness"

Thanks for reading!❤